Anger+Management

Manage YOUR Anger ONE  out of FIVE  Americans has an anger management problem.

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 * Anger ** is not just a mental state of mind. It triggers an increase in heart rate, blood pressure and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline.

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  **Controlling Anger**  There are techniques which can help you control your thoughts and in turn control your anger.  **//Imagery//** - Get rid of intense, angry feelings by letting your imagination diffuse some of the feelings. Imagery is a safer way for you to vent angry feelings. **//Thought stopping//** - Do not allow the thoughts that are making you angry to continue. Shut down those thoughts by switching your concentration to something you find pleasant and enjoyable. By diverting your attention you help the anger to dissipate. **//Change your expectations//** - People often get angry when their expectations are not met. Modifying your expectations can help you cope with anger. **//Develop more understanding//** - Being aware of why a person behaves a certain way or why a person is saying something will help promote understanding. Try putting yourself in the other person's shoes and viewing a situation from their perspective. <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;">



<span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; position: relative; text-decoration: inherit; zoom: 1;"> <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> **<span style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 25px;">Three Types of Anger ** <span style="color: #0000ff; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> Rage <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> Rage is the expression of violent, uncontrolled anger. Rage is an outward expression of anger and can result in a visible, often destructive, explosion. If Lucille (in example 1) took the plate she had in her hand and threw it against the wall causing it to break into pieces as a reaction to her husband's suggestion, this behavior would exhibit rage. <span style="color: #0000ff; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> Resentment <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> Resentment is the feeling of anger directed towards a person or object which is suppressed and kept inside. It is a feeling which smolders and feels uncomfortable, and can possibly create more physiological and psychological damage. If John (in example 4) listened to his mother's comment but did not respond by explaining the reality to her, he would harbor feelings of resentment. <span style="color: #0000ff; display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;">Indignation <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 20px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;"> Indignation is regarded as appropriate, controlled, positive type of anger. Though Susan felt like screaming when the doctor's office canceled her appointment (in example 2), she calmly told the secretary she was disappointed but understood and rescheduled the appointment. The three types of anger (rage, resentment, and indignation) can occur separately or in combination, depending on the situation. With an understanding of the different types of anger, it may become easier to deal with situations which provoke these feelings. <span style="display: block; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 1.5em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 351px; margin-top: 1.5em; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; position: static; text-decoration: inherit; width: 930px;">

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 * <span style="color: #e58300; font-family: Tahoma,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 170%; font: normal normal normal 18px/normal Verdana; letter-spacing: 0px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 18px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">Angry Thoughts **

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==<span style="color: #649d0e; font-size: 18px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; font: normal normal normal 18px/normal Georgia; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding: 0px;">10 tips to help get your anger under control ==
 * 1) **Take a 'timeout.**' Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.
 * 2) **Get some space.** Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.
 * 3) **Once you're calm, express your anger.** It's healthy to express your frustration in a nonconfrontational way. Stewing about it can make the situation worse.
 * 4) **Get some exercise.** Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
 * 5) **Think carefully before you say anything.** Otherwise, you're likely to say something you'll regret. It can be helpful to write down what you want to say so that you can stick to the issues. When you're angry, it's easy to get sidetracked.
 * 6) **Identify solutions to the situation.** Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
 * 7) **Use 'I' statements when describing the problem.** This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework."
 * 8) **Don't hold a grudge.** If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
 * 9) **Use humor to release tensions.** Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.
 * 10) **Practice relaxation skills.** Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.



==__**<span style="color: #649d0e; font-size: 18px; font-style: normal; font: normal normal normal 18px/normal Georgia; margin-bottom: 6px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Getting anger management help **__== You can practice many of these anger management strategies on your own. But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or makes you feel physically violent or destructive, you may benefit from some help. Here are some ways you can get help to keep your frustrations in check:
 * **See a psychologist or licensed counselor.** Seeing a therapist can help you learn to recognize your anger warning signs before you blow up, and how to cope with your anger. Ask your primary care doctor for a referral to a counselor specializing in anger management. Family and friends also may give you recommendations based on their experiences. Your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, or state or local agencies also may offer recommendations.
 * **Take an anger management class.** An anger management class can teach you what anger is, how to recognize anger triggers and how to keep your anger under control. These courses can be done individually, with spouses or families, or in groups. In addition to the search methods for a psychologist or counselor, you can find organizations offering anger management courses on the Internet and through your district court.
 * **Read a book.** There are a number of helpful books on anger management. A number of them focus on particular situations, such as anger in teens, anger in men or anger in couples. Many of them are workbooks, with exercises that teach concrete skills.